As much as everyone dreams of a perfect marriage, it is normal for you and your spouse to differ once in a while. Research has found that some little disagreements and learning how to resolve conflict can make you and your partner grow closer. You undoubtedly need to learn how to fight fair so that your disputes do not escalate into chaos. The tips for fighting fair in marriage are as follows.
Focus on the Issue
Do not keep wavering and bring up issues that are not related to what you are arguing about. There are a lot of married people who have inner resentments and are always looking for an opportunity to lash out. Do not use the time to drag out past issues.
Learn to Listen
When you are actually arguing with your spouse, do not make it all about winning the argument. Learn to listen to the emotions they are trying to convey and acknowledge their feelings before you respond. Give them space and time to express themselves before responding.
Keep Your Tone Normal
It is common for people to raise their voices and yell whenever they feel like they are not being understood. Take control of your emotions, and avoid shouting.